Thoughts on Empty Nests, New Music, and Fantasy Football
I don't watch football but I am totally pro-pun. Team Pun. Pun League. Pun-offs. The Punly Cup.
BINGO! “ I feel like the thing people see in our family is that there is an evident comfort and ease with being with each other, and a seeming desire to spend time with each other….”
My fantasy football team name this week is Hell is Romo.
Jeff, Romo is a reference to the former Dallas Cowboys quarterback , Tony Romo. He brought many a Cowboy fan heartbreak from his untimely mistakes.
Muzzle of Buffalo Bills
Not to nerd out but, aside from the AMAZING music you have gifted, I am frequently drawn back to LGSWCGB and interviews where Jeff talks about his childhood - his mom was clearly “good enough” (tears when I read about the tv and ashy cigarette). As a psychologist, I must mention that Donald Winnicott (British psychoanalyst) did a massive study of parenting and his conclusion was that “good enough” is, ironically, the best parenting approach. You got it! And it is truly an encouragement and an inspiration - would like be “good enough” in all my relationships. Peace!
That's some solid parenting advice! I see some parents get themselves so invested in their children's "success" -- or rather what the parents consider to be success -- that the stakes for everyone in the family are so high. It can lead to some real difficulty, unhappiness and behavior issues.
So I agree that being open about your own struggles and joys as a human existing in the world is a big factor in how they themselves approach life. If they see you striving to do your best in whatever situation then chances are they'll adopt that behavior. Our kids are around the same age as yours and they're pretty wonderful people. What a joy!
I truly enjoyed the Tweedy Show during lockdown and beyond. My favorite part was you folks just being such a loving family. It was a pretty big deal to witness that stuff when so much misery and heartache was around us with the pandemic and the guy who was in the White House at the time.
So thanks Tweedys!
Way to step in it, Jeff, on the question of Susie joining you on international tours. After all these years one would think avoiding such landmines would be second nature. I suspect that it is and that you were, to coin a phrase my grandparents loved, just pulling Susie's leg.
Anyway, off topic but hope it's OK to post this.
Ah, "semi-forced togetherness" is such a great way to put it. One of the small silver linings to those awful early days of the pandemic was the resignation and peacefulness of just my small family being together. So many expectations and pressures were put aside, I would even say it was cozy at times, when we were able to insulate ourselves from all the external goings-on. The TWEEDY SHOW was such a big part of that for me. You all were safe with your family, and we were safe with ours, and there was music. I'm pretty sure I'll never be able to thank the Tweedy's adequately for those shows...
A delightful read on this cold, rainy Dallas morning. Kamikaze Palm Tree was terrific at Solid Sound '22. So much of the joy in attending the fest is being introduced to new music (new to us, anyway).
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My fantasy football team was the Laminated Cats a few years ago. Nobody but me would get it, but I laughed every week.
I admire your sweet family. There is a lovely kind of ease to how you all relate. I just feeeel the love there. Clearly you are doing something very right. :) My 21 yo son spends his free time making electronic music and hanging out with his friends. I’m all too aware that he’ll be moving out and on soon. We get hang time a couple of times a week and I cherish it. I just try to soak him in. I’m elated that he (actually) wants to go to Iceland with me in April! Tix bought and we are both just silly excited! ❤️
Oh my favorite family. Feel the love!
I love what you wrote about parenting, even though I am not one. Thank you for what you have done and experienced with Sammy and Spencer. They are gifts to the world.
I don’t understand or care about footie, unless it’s keeping an animal clear of shoelaces.
My question is: where do I post pix of my new kitty to get Jeff’s stellar naming suggestions?
What great parenting advice. We did same for our girls and, like you, our girls truly enjoy hanging out with us. It is very satisfying to have raised good human beings. Undoubtedly the best thing I've ever done for sure!